Thursday, March 4, 2010

CHILDREN AND THE BOUNDRIES WE SET

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Saturday, February 27, 2010

Wrong Crowd's Influence on Our Children

When we think about the wrong crowd we vision the drug dealers and the alcohol drinkers. Far be it for us to see our own children. Sometimes we are so wrapped up in accusing others we are blind sighted by the fact that our own children might be the leader of the pack. We are always making excuses why our children act the way they do and we see the other children as the bad influence.
Some children are impressed by their peers and give in to the pressure. Their peers use their insecurities to make them feel helpless and vundurable. Most children just want to fit in and if their friends are doing something then that's the shoe that fits.
The best defense a parent has is an open line of communication. Teach them about the tricks friends use to influence them. Tell them what to expect and the consquences.

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Building a Ruutine


Believe it or not the dinner table is the best tool you have to family harmony. It sends a message to your children that they are part of a team, a family team all working together for a common goal. The more consistent the structure the more positive the effect. Being a viable family member is important to a child.


The more enjoyable the meal the more effective. Make dinner about sharing, conversation, good food and laughing. A time to slow down and help each member of a family feel in contact with the family putting aside the hectic life of the outside world. Family meals should be eaten at the table with every family member seated. The conversations should include every family member.


Every family member should be allowed to choose what they eat. Letting them make responsible decisions about food is a lesson about responsibilty. Compliments about their choices makes them feel confident in their decision making choices. The trick is to choose your words carefully.


Invite friends over for dinner. Friends add variety to the conversations and helps introduce variety to choices. Some family members love to impress friends may try foods they normally might turn up their nose to. Having friends over is a great time to introduce a new food.


Studies have shown that a family that shares meals continue the bond through out life and are more stable and make better choices through out life. This might be because of bonds they build in a simple thing called the dinner table.

Friday, July 10, 2009

ADVENTURES OF HIDDEN KIND


ONE DAY AS WE WERE PREPARING TO GO TO GYMNASTICS WHEN MY CAR STARTED SKIPPING AND I HAD TO PULL OFF TO THE CURB. A CLOUD OF STEAM COVERED THE FRONT OF MY CAR. THE FEAR IN MY CHILDREN'S VOICE SENT ME INTO THE COMFORTER MODE. AFTER I CALMED THEM DOWN I WENT INTO A PANIC MYSELF. HERE I WAS STRANDED ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD WITH SIX CHILDREN. MY CELL PHONE WAS MY ONLY LIFE LINE. AFTER REACHING MY HUSBAND I CALMED DOWN.

IT WAS THEN THAT I REALIZED THAT THE CHILDREN WERE HAVING A GREAT TIME. THEY HAD TURNED THIS INTO AN ADVENTURE. THEY WERE LAUGHING AND ENJOYING A CHANGE TO THE ROUTINE THEY HAD BEEN PROGRAMED TO. THEY WERE PLAYING GAMES AND SINGING.

IT SUDDENLY MADE ME AWARE OF HOW SERIOUS WE AS ADULTS TAKE THINGS. I WAS LIKE THE ANT ON A BUGS LIFE A BRANCH FELL IN FRONT OF ME AND I WAS LOST DIDN'T KNOW WHERE TO GO. THE CHILDREN ON THE OTHER HAND WERE IN A KINGDOM FIGHTING DRAGONS AND SAVING THE KINGDOM. I DON'T KNOW HOW WE CAN LEARN TO DO THIS BUT I BET LIFE WOULD BE A LOT LOT BETTER IF WE COULD DO THIS IN EVERY SITUATION.