CLUES IN COMMUNICATION THAT ARE NOT SEEN

OUR CHILDREN CREATE WAYS TO SHOW THEIR LOVE. EVERY CHILD COMES FROM A DIFFERENT MOLD. EVERY CHILD LEARNS TO COMMUNICATE LOVE DIFFERENTLY. WE MUST LEARN TO COMMUNICATE WITH EACH CHILD USING CLUES THEY EXPRESS IN THEIR PERSONALITY . THESE CLUES ARE CLEAR IN HOW A CHILD REACTS TO HIS WORLD.

SOME CHILDREN LOVE TO TOUCH. THIS BECOMES APPARENT WITH ALL THE HUGS AND KISSES THEY GIVE WHEN THEY ARE VERY YOUNG. THEY ARE RESPONDING TO THEIR EMOTIONAL NEED TO BE TOUCHED. THEY PERCEIVE THESE ACTIONS AS EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE. AS A CHILD GROWS HIS/HER EXPRESSIONS OF PHYSICAL TOUCH MAY BECOME MORE PRIVATE BUT DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE/SHE DOES NOT REQUIRE IT. IF YOUR CHILD IS CONSTANTLY TOUCHING YOU THEN PHYSICAL TOUCH IS IMPORTANT TO THEM AND YOU SHOULD KEEP THIS IN MIND. IF A CHILD DOES NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE WHEN YOU HUG HIM (FROM A VERY YOUNG AGE) THEN TOUCH IS NOT HIS AVENUE TO COMMUNICATION.

IF YOUR CHILD IS ALWAYS TELLING YOU HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE, HOW GREAT OF A MOM YOU ARE OR WHAT A GOOD JOB YOU ARE DOING THEY ARE EXPRESSING THINGS THEY LIKE TO HEAR ABOUT THEMSELVES. THEY FIND IT VERY IMPORTANT TO BE PRAISED. THESE CHILDREN CAN BE HURT JUST BY CRITICAL REMARKS. THEY PAY GREAT ATTENTION TO WHAT IS SAID AND THEIR SELF ESTEEM DEPENDS ON HOW WE COMMUNICATE WITH THEM THROUGHOUT THEIR LIVES

IF YOUR CHILD SHOWERS YOU WITH GIFTS LIKE PICKING YOUR PRIZE WINNING FLOWERS THEN HE/SHE IS TELLING YOU HE/SHE PLACES MUCH IMPORTANCE ON GIVING AND RECEIVING. YOU CAN TELL IF YOUR CHILD REALLY LOVES TO RECIEVE GIFTS BY HOW THEY TREAT GIFTS THEY RECIEVE. ALL CHILDREN LOVE RECIEVING GIFTS FOR A TIME. IT IS AFTER THE NEW IS GONE HOW DOES HE/SHE TREAT THE GIFT. IF THEY TREAT IT AS IMPORTANT YOU HAVE A COMMUNICATION TOOL.

IF YOUR CHILD IS ALWAYS HELPING YOU AND OTHERS HE MAY BE EXPRESSING HIS LOVE THROUGH SERVICE TO YOU. THIS IS A CLUE THAT SERVICE IS EMOTIONALY IMPORTANT TO HIM/HER. YOUR ACTS OF SERVICE (TAKING CARE OF YOUR CHILD) HAS IMPRINTED ON YOUR CHILD. BY HELPING YOU HE IS SAYING "I LOVE YOU". THIS TOOL LETS YOU FEEL GOOD WHEN YOU SHARE RESPONDSIBLY.

IF YOUR CHILD IS ALWAYS TRYING TO GET YOUR ATTENTION, SHOWING YOU THINGS, WANTING YOU TO FOLLOW HIM/HER THEN THEY ARE BEGGING FOR YOU, JUST TO SPEND TIME WITH THEM. THEY NEED YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION. SPENDING TIME WITH THEM MAY MEAN YOU HAVE TO GET INTO THEIR WORLD. NO MATTER WHAT AGE THEY ARE THE AJUSTMENTS WILL MAKE YOUR QUALITY TIME WORTH EVERY MINTUE. THESE CHILDREN NEED YOUR TIME NOT ONLY WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG BUT FOREVER.

WHAT IT ALL COMES DOWN TO IS THAT WE SEE WHAT IS EMOTIONALY IMPORTANT TO OUR CHILDREN AND WORK FROM THAT. IF WE NEVER LEARN TO COMMUNICATE WITH OUR CHILDREN WE WILL LOSE THEM TO THE WORLD. THEY WILL SEARCH OUT WHAT THEY PERCIEVE TO BE LOVE AND UNDERSTANING FROM EXTERNAL SOURCES.